Coming, Crying, Assuming
So there’s this recently-released anthology of sex stories called Coming & Crying, which was funded by a well-received Kickstarter project. I came across it while developing my own project on Kickstarter, and from the start I was perturbed by the editors’ stated intent, which is (partly):
We want to produce this book because we want to read it; it’s something we’ve been looking for for a long time and haven’t found yet. Compelling writing that doesn’t skip over the interesting parts, writing that is willing to go there, to be brave and to dwell in it, the way few published authors have. … The lack of good storytelling about sex in print feels ridiculous, bizarre.
The links in the above quote go to a video where the editors of Coming & Crying read some particularly heinous sex descriptions from respected male authors. I think I understand what they’re getting at – the British magazine Literary Review does an annual Bad Sex in Fiction award where they gamely pick on sex scenes by popular writers. (Here’s a choice line from the most recent winner: “…I laughed out loud, sperm still gushing in huge spurts from my penis, jubilant, I bit deep into her vulva to swallow it whole…”).
I’m well aware that there’s a lot of bad sex writing out there. But a “lack of good storytelling about sex in print”? That seems willfully ignorant, and even insulting to the many accomplished writers out there telling stories that attempt to give their readers a boner and/or explore the twisty back staircases of human desire (and yeah, I’m including myself here).
I put off mentioning this because I don’t fancy dumping on somebody’s project, however that project is intended. I know and respect some of the writers in it – in fact I respect all involved, editors included, because it’s ballsy to put oneself out there. And I’m not passing any judgement on the content of the book – I haven’t read a word of it.
But a few days ago I read Larry McMurtry’s The Last Picture Show, and I was blown away by how utterly soaked with sex it is, and how in its descriptions of sex it’s uncannily perceptive and honest.
Here are just a few of the things that happen in The Last Picture Show (and I list these at the risk of reducing them to base acts; in context they impart eroticism, poignancy, and humor): 1) High school boys go out to a farm and take turns fucking a cow. 2) The middle-aged wife of the gay, closeted high school football coach experiences her first orgasm with one of the boys on the team. 3) A young man travels to Mexico and has a strange, sad encounter with a pregnant prostitute.
The Last Picture Show was published over forty years ago, and it features coming and crying in equal and substantial amounts. But it’s just one example. From the erotica anthologies of Susie Bright and Richard Labonte to the novels of Dennis Cooper, there’s a wealth of brave, intelligent, and intentionally-amusing sex writing out there, both classic and contemporary. I warmly encourage anyone, including the editors of Coming & Crying, to get out there and read it.
8 Comments
arctic_jay
Sep 23, 2010 @ 03:02:38
The impetus for this project seems pointlessly cunty (constructive cuntiness I can tolerate). Unless, of course, they’re rebelling against an imaginary dearth of good sex writing for marketing purposes. It all does seem demographically engineered to make “sex-positive” types wet their panties. Rail against those fucking literary men (feminism!); giggle like schoolgirls while reading said men’s boneheaded erotic prose (fun feminism!).
Also, this Gira Grant chick seems somewhat confused about her supporting arguments. Consider:
“The problem with literary men who write literary sex scenes is that there’s a completely imaginary line between pornography and literature, and pornography has no time for your posturing and your irony because people only masturbate sincerely, and literature has no time for the pleasure of anything but literature, and good sex rarely makes for good literature, and pornography only yields to awkward and painful sex by accident.”
“We’re post-porn, if anything. Cheap digital video and the internet killed the commercial juggernaut that is porn. Everyone can make porn now. People still only masturbate sincerely, even if they fuck ironically. If there were ever a time for literature to come in and fill the gap left by porn, this is it.”
Firstly, how can we be in a post-porn world if everyone can make porn? The fact that everyone can make porn (and is making porn) means we’re in an era in which porn is having its greatest influence. That’s not “post”; that’s “during”. Also, if literature only generates pleasure solipsistically and is steeped in irony and posturing, how is it supposed to be the genre that will fill the void left by porn? And, if everyone is masturbating to porn make by their fellow, non-incorporated, citizens and masturbation is a sincere act, then what the fuck, exactly is her problem?
Reading her statements on the homepage leave me wondering if she’s even capable of writing a single precise, coherent paragraph. It’s all word salad colored with an odd snarky yet glaringly sentimental tone.
For Christ’s sake, has she even heard of Jean Genet?
Natty
Sep 23, 2010 @ 08:40:38
artic_jay, You make some good points but I wish you hadn’t dropped the big c-word – I’m trying to keep things civil around here. I agree that her arguments seem muddled, and they’re all predicated on this idea that good sex writing has yet to exist, which just seems absurd.
Matt G
Sep 23, 2010 @ 09:59:58
Hey Natty — as someone who’s a fan of your work and who is a friend of the C&C ladies (and someone who has a story in the book) let me assure you that their heart is/was in the right place. What’s important, I think, is not to worry about the particulars of whether this is somehow a ‘breakthrough’ in sex writing, because of course it’s probably not — people have been having sex and writing abt it since at least 2002 LOL — it’s just a collection of stories, some of which are better than others in my opinion. (You might h8 mine, for example!) But at least the compilation offers a variety of perspectives, which I think is a credit to the editors, and all of the stories, I think, were written in the spirit of frank, unsentimental writing abt sex, which is never easy. (Admittedly, I liked some more than others!) Most of all, it’s just a couple of genuinely nice ppl running things on a shoestring, and I’m sure if you met them, you’d be happy to know them, just as they would you. Trust me: we’re all on the same side here! xo MG
Natty
Sep 23, 2010 @ 10:48:43
Thanks for your perspective, Matt. Yes, indeed, many contemporary sex writing anthologies are stratified by gender/sexuality lines, so I do laud them for going that route. I’m all for a unified front!
arctic_jay
Sep 24, 2010 @ 21:10:19
If you want to maintain a certain tone for your blog, I can respect that. But I would like to point out that the editors of this book are shitting on an entire group of authors and ignoring an even larger group solely for the purpose of marketing. That’s neither civil or good-hearted.
Natty
Sep 25, 2010 @ 14:10:35
arctic_jay & Rob – I totally get your anger. But because I’m chronically disposed to seeing the other side of things I’ll say this: the idea of a revolution in art/literature, of youthful voice usurping the status quo, is time honored and often worthwhile. It’s an energizing, motivating thing to think “Nobody’s doing this but me/us!” I think we’ve all been there. Much great work has come out of it. It is also naive and probably best kept to one’s self unless you’re, I dunno, Karl Marx or the Marquis de Sade.
QUIET RIOT GIRL
Nov 20, 2010 @ 14:45:25
Hi Natty
I haven’t read C and C but I have it on order and am looking forward to it. But I know what you mean about the way the editors overlook a lot of great writing about sex in literature and in specific ‘sex’ writing/porn/erotica if we are going to make any distinctions.
I say I am looking forward to it. but I have now read Sex Scene Anthology which -almost literally- blew my head off! so it will be hard to impress me now. It is free on pdf or you can order a copy. Its made by writers based in US, UK and elsewhere and is amazing.
http://quietgirlriot.wordpress.com/2010/10/20/sex-scene-anthology/
There is a great sex scene in Goodbye to Berlin by Isherwood. I say great. The sex is barely mentioned but the build-up and aftermath are so brilliantly observed it has stayed in my mind in a very vivid way.
QRG x
Quiet Riot Girl
Nov 20, 2010 @ 14:48:10
sorry didnt mean to caps lock my name!
also I think the title Coming And Crying is pretty inspired. they deserve some credit for that at least!